In total I have been rejected 174 times this year. That is 174 times I got unnecessarily frustrated and angry at myself for “maybe if I did this”.
That is too late. All the “what if’s”, all the “I should have done this”. The time has past. The rejection has been endured. It’s time to move on?
We don’t move on. Not over night, not one year later.
17th January 18′, my first dose of rejection. The dreaded email. The pain and frustration you see when you read ” Unfortunately on this occasion you have been unsuccessful.” My fists curl up tight, why, why, why.
Three days later… Rejected again? This time, no reason. No explanation. No further information.
The vicious cycle of rejection continues and before you even have time to process the first dose, you’re hit again. Six months down the line. “WHAT AM I DOING SO WRONG!”. At this point I had a genuine fear of rejection. Stuck in a dead end job with no place to go, I was beginning to lose all hope.
I started asking the question “why?”. What is your explanation for my letter of rejection? Can you provide me with feedback?
No response. No avail.
“Every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being redirected to something better.” – Dr. Steve Maraboli
Almost one year on, I realised I was rejected for a reason. That reason happened to be the best thing to happen to me. The final time I was so prepared for rejection, until I heard the words “Congratulations…” this was it, the one word that helped me overcome a years worth of rejection.
Overcoming rejection is possible, it can happen in a split second. Even if it takes a year or three, be patient and your time will come.